From Hormones to Harmony: A Couple’s Menopause Conversation Kit

Menopause can be a rocky ride for couples. In fact, we know that many marriages/relationships break up during this time of life – and we don’t want that.

This questionnaire is designed by She2.0 to help you and your partner start (or deepen) the conversation about menopause. Understanding this critical life-stage is not just about understanding what’s happening in her (her – being YOU) body—it’s about understanding how it’s affecting both of you as individuals and as a team. Open dialogue can help you both feel more connected, supported, and prepared to handle whatever comes your way. 

For you, it’s a chance to share what you’re going through without feeling judged or misunderstood. For your partner, it’s an opportunity to learn how to be the best partner they can be during this time. And for both of you, it’s a way to strengthen your relationship, find humour in the chaos, and maybe even discover some unexpected silver linings.

 

So, grab a cup of tea (or a glass of wine), sit down together, and dive into these questions. Keep in mind, this is not about having all the answers—it’s about getting the conversation started and showing up for each other. Because when it comes to menopause, you’re in this together.

 

So, let’s get talking!

 

Exploring Emotions & Experiences 

1. How has menopause been messing with your emotions lately? 

2. Are there any symptoms or changes that you are really struggling with? 

3. What worries you the most about aging and/or menopause? 

4. Do you ever feel like people just don’t get what you’re going through? And by people, I mean 'me'.

Fostering Understanding & Empathy 

5. What’s one thing you wish I totally got about what you’re dealing with? 

6. How do you feel about how we’re handling menopause as a couple? 

7. Can you think of a time recently when I really had your back—or maybe dropped the ball? 

8. What’s the best way for me to help when you’re having a rough day? 

Communicating Needs & Boundaries

9. What can I do to make things a little easier or more comfortable for you? 

10. Is there anything about menopause or aging you’ve been avoiding talking to me about? 

11. How do you want to handle talking about intimacy or changes in our sex life? 

12. What can I do to make sure you feel like I’m really listening to you? 

Reaffirming Love & Connection 

13. Even with all the challenges, what about us still makes you happy? 

14. How can we sneak in more quality time or closeness during this phase? 

15. What’s something fun we could do together to make this whole thing less stressful? 

16. How can we focus on the good stuff about this stage of life? 

Planning & Problem-Solving Together 

17. Anything specific you want us to work on as we figure this out? 

18. Are there any lifestyle changes (like diet or exercise) you want to try, and how can I help? 

19. How do you feel about getting some outside help, like a doctor or therapist, for menopause stuff? 

20. What’s one thing we could do better as a couple to support each other? 

Reflecting on the Journey

21. How do you think menopause has changed the way you see life or relationships? 

22. What’s something you’ve learned about yourself during all this? 

23. How do you think we’ll grow closer as a couple through this experience? 

24. What can we do to make this phase feel more meaningful or fulfilling? 

Deepening Connection 

25. What’s one thing you’ve always loved about me that hasn’t changed, no matter what? 

26. How do you think we’ve gotten stronger as a couple over the years? 

27. How can I show you I love and support you in a way that really hits home? 

28. What do you think menopause has taught us about rolling with the punches as a team? 

Future Aspirations 

29. What do you picture our life looking like after symptoms calm down (or disappear with the right care) post-menopause? 

30. Any new goals or dreams you want us to chase together? 

31. How can we keep things fun and lighthearted as we get older? 

32. What’s one thing you’re actually excited about in this stage of life? 

Showing Your Gratitude & Commitment 

33. What’s one thing about us right now that you’re really thankful for? 

34. What do you need from me to feel like I’ve got your back moving forward? 

35. How can we remind each other that we’re a team, no matter what comes our way? 

36. What’s one promise you want us to make to each other as we keep going through this? 

Communication is the key to everything and that's why I've developed these questions. Give it a try and let me know how it goes.