“It is what it is.”
“You’re at that age.”
Are we going completely in the opposite direction by being overly optimistic about menopause? Like anything else, I prefer moderation. A blend of information, hope and the reality around menopause. No, it isn’t all great.
Toxic positivity is pervasive and while it may come from a well-meaning place, it does more damage than good.
Let’s talk about how this unrelenting positivity trend is creeping into the conversation about menopause, and why we need to embrace a more authentic, nuanced perspective.
Menopause is a natural transition for many women. It's like the hormonal equivalent of an aging wine, a process that unfolds with its own unique set of flavors and complexities. The trouble begins when society bombards us with messages that seem to suggest menopause should be all sunshine and rainbows. "Embrace it!" they say, "It's a rite of passage!" Yet, this relentless optimism is not only unrealistic but can also be deeply alienating.
Being overly positive about menopause can feel like an over-promise, setting expectations that often leave women feeling like they've missed the memo on how to enjoy it. It can even make them feel worse because they're afraid to admit that they're not exactly having the time of their lives during this phase.
It's important to remember that menopause, like any other life stage, comes with its ups and downs. It's alright to acknowledge the challenges and discomforts that might accompany it. In fact, it's vital. By doing so, we create space for authentic conversations, where women can share their experiences without fear of judgment or guilt.
Menopause should be approached with a balanced perspective that acknowledges the realities while also celebrating the wisdom and growth it can bring. It's not about sugar-coating the experience but embracing it with openness, empathy, and understanding.
So, let's break free from the shackles of toxic pause-itivity when it comes to menopause. After all, it's the imperfections and complexities of life that truly make us human. And remember, it's perfectly fine to admit that while some aspects of menopause might be positive, others might require a little more than a bright-side attitude to navigate successfully.